3 Tips for Overcoming Hair Envy



Many of us have been envious of another naturalista’s curls at some point on our natural hair journey. It can be challenging to let go of that envy, which is why we’re sharing a few tips on how to overcome those negative feelings and cherish your own strands.

Be mindful of your social media intake

One of the great things about living in the digital age is that social networking sites such as Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter allow naturalistas to easily connect with and celebrate each other through photos, videos and other types of content. This is no doubt a gift, but it can also be a curse.

If you’re constantly scrolling through your social media feeds and seeing tons of photos of women with flawless curl definition and tresses to die for, that can take a toll on the level of confidence you have in your own hair – especially if you haven’t yet reached your hair goals. So, yes, it’s necessary to have a little “hairspiration” in your life but keep it at a healthy amount to cut down on any envy or jealousy that might be brewing in the back of your mind.

Be patient with – and kind to – your hair

There will likely be times that you’ll grow frustrated with your hair (Type 4 naturals, can I get an “amen”?) because you’re not able to achieve some of the same styles you’ve been admiring online. Reasons for this disappointment range from a length or texture difference to a number of other factors. But don’t punish your hair. Embrace your mane just as it exists and focus on the styles that highlight your particular hair type.

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Be proud of your hair and remember why you’re on Team Natural

Whether you’ve converted to Team Natural or have been a lifelong member, it’s important to remember why wearing your hair in its natural state is significant to you. Keep your goals and principles top of mind while also finding the balance to admire fellow naturalistas, without falling victim to the problems that arise from continuously coveting the curls you don’t have.

What are some other ways to overcome hair envy? Feel free to share in the comments below.

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Crissinda Ponder

Crissinda has been writing since she could hold a pen steady between her fingers. She is the creator and author of "Crissi Untangled," a personal blog chronicling her thoughts on life, culture and curls. Her work has also appeared on several online platforms including 4c Hair Chick, Brown Girl Bloggers, For Harriet and the Women’s Media Center. She's been natural for more than six years and when she isn't binge-watching YouTube videos and attempting hairstyles at varying levels of success, she’s giving her kinks a break by rocking another set of box braids or twists.


  1. Amanda M. Rich 9 July, 2016 at 03:17 Reply

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