My dream was to always have long hair as a child. I would beg my mother to buy products that promised to grow hair fast not realizing that I had to put in hard work to. I decided to go on a healthy hair journey back in 2009. I had no clue as to where to start. I just knew that I wanted long hair. The first hair site I joined was Hairlista and was provided with many tips from the lovely ladies there. Starting out my hair was shoulder length and damaged beyond measure.
I would flat iron my hair everyday and get a relaxer every month (sometimes twice) YIKES!
In July of 2009 I thought I wanted be natural and slowly started to transition. However, that was short lived and I only made it to two months before I decided to relax again. Yes, my will power was not that strong back then. I started coming across more and more articles about stretching relaxers and how it was beneficial for hair. So instead I decided to take that route and seemed to work out well. I would relax every three months instead of every month. My hair did grow but it still was not healthy or at least not how I wanted it to be health wise.
My turning point for deciding to go natural was on January 29, 2011. I had a kiddie perm put in that burned the mess out the back of my head. I had been on a four month stretch, so you could just imagine the new growth I had! My decision to transition was actually accidental. I figured as long as I could manage my new growth with S-Curl and Aloe Vera I could wait a while longer until my next relaxer. Those three month stretches eventually turned into 5 months. At that point I figured why not go natural.
I was scared to do a short cut because I had never dealt with hair that was shorter than shoulder length. Then came the long-term transition. I must say now if I could go back and big chop sooner I would. By month twelve of transitioning managing the new growth became nearly impossible. Wash days became my worst nightmare and I tried to put them off as long as possible. My old products were not working anymore and it became extremely frustrating.
After 15 months of transitioning, on May 2, 2012 I did my big chop. Of course it was not planned or anything. My intention was to see how my curl pattern would look without any relaxed ends attached to it in a very small section. I kept cutting and cutting and eventually I convinced myself that I did not want to put up with anymore long detangling sessions with my relaxed and natural hair fighting each other.
Now, it has nearly been three years since I’ve been natural and I am really enjoying it. When I chopped of my hair I had no idea what to expect as far as my texture and what styles I would do. Let alone what new products would work for me. I found through trial and error the techniques and products that work best for my hair. I am continuing to work towards my long term goal of becoming WL. The most important thing I have learned along my hair journey is that patience is key and embrace who I am. Whether that be relaxed or natural. I am me.